Have you ever heard people make statements around you like: “My boss is always ordering me around, I do not like him”, “my friend always tells me what to do, she is too domineering”, “that man is always saying do this, do that”, “ my father treats me like I am still his twelve year old son and I am twenty-five for God’s sake, it sucks!”, “my boss does not always want you to sit at work, once there are no customers, he will look for something else for you to do, even if it is tomorrow’s work”?
Well, I have heard that and also seen people in such situations. People generally, irrespective of their gender have an amount of ego no matter how small and therefore can tolerate controlling people at varying levels. One thing I have observed however is that most controlling people do not want to be controlling but they see people around them as reactive rather than pro-active as themselves and so unconsciously feel the urge to drive them. On the other hand, a lot of people are actually not pro-active especially at work and so find themselves been pushed by their goal- oriented boss. They continue to detest the boss’ approach but they do not work on themselves to get things done before their boss demands.
Although, I know that there are overly demanding bosses of whom you almost cannot please but getting your work done before your boss asks is a very progressive thing to do and it sure would not go without the boss noticing it, it gives you a sense of fulfillment as well and gives the demanding boss little to complain about.
In conclusion, if you do not like your colleague, friend or boss telling you just about everything to do, then get up and GET IT DONE before they think of saying it.
As I read through this article, I remember one of Marymary's songs; the lyrics which goes thus: 'Get up, don't sit down, get up, got a lot to do, 24hrs almost gone, get up…' So if you are not getting up, definetely someone superior is going to help you do the standing. Though, I do not deny the fact that there are some over-active people who just want to force you into their schedule forgetting that the brain sometimes needs rest. Thanks Pharm ope for the article.
Obviously, No one likes to be driven, especially like a machine, but in the real sense, are we not one? Humans are just an upgrade version, "V.living".
As humans, we usually do not want to leave our comfort zones but forget that the end product of our actions breeds discomfort.
"Don't Tell Me What to Do" attitude has helped to keep me on toes. If you do not want hear that phrase, then you've got "To Do What You Were Not Told".
Watch It! No one chastise the other for going the mile, not to talk of the extra, even when not achieving the best of results.
Having read this piece of Pharm EOD, Do you still need to be "Told What To Do"?
Get Up and Do that…before You Are Told What To Do again.
Anu, thanks for reading. true the brain needs rest but certainly not at work.
Dami, thanks for reading. someone said we should do a little more than we are paid to do but most people actually do less
Yea,so much for inertia-driven folks (can't even absolve myself)! I can't agree less with the conclusion- GET IT DONE BEFORE YOU'RE TOLD WHAT TO DO! Go mon ami 😉