They said I am still single,
So I chose to stop attending weddings, 
I  was tired of catching the bouquet and saying goodbye to my friends.

They said I am still single,
So I started spending weekends alone at home,
Over eating and watching TV while I wallow in self pity.

They said I am still single
So I stopped pursuing my dreams and aspirations, 
I didn’t want to get rich and lose the chances of getting a suitor.

They said I am still single,
So I started investing my savings on beauty products,
So I could look attractive to a man even if it meant borrowing.

They said I am still single,
So I resolved to find a married man to impregnate me,
So I could be a mother if I can’t be a wife.

They said I am still single
So I shut my heart against God,
I blamed him for hoarding the gift of a man from me.

They said I am still single
So I stopped being kind,
I need people to understand how painful it is to be alone.

They said I am still single
then I realized I had less cares and worries,
I didn’t have a baby to breastfeed nor husband to feed. 
I am still single,
But I have kids in my neighborhood-
Kids that I can be a mother to;
Hungry kids that I can share my meal with.
I am still single,
but I have professional goals I can meet without distraction; 
Life’s purpose I can fulfill without company.
I am still single,
But I have Kingdom service I can commit to thus blessing others,
I have so much to do and little time to accomplish it,
I am still single,
But I would soon be married,
And still have people to please and demands to meet.

Written by Aanu Odedere and she sends a footnote to all single ladies out there “don’t fail to shine these years, you never gonna get it back”