Hi there…happy new week to you. This is a sequel to the last piece by Paul Fasoro… do LEARN.
When I was in the university, there was a particular hair cut that I loved so much, I found it quite moderate and acceptable. However, during my service year, I was posted to a rural environment and found out that my hairstyle was not acceptable. I quickly got rid of it, especially when I became the evangelism secretary of NCCF.
So when should I care?
If we want to constructively answer this question, we need to have a correct view of people!
Who or what are the people? Most times, we view them as enemies, pessimists, unprogressive, traitors and generally employ a bad attitude about people.
Actually, its a sincerely wrong attitude. We have adopted this attitude based on experience. At least, we’ve all had an experience that testifies that people cannot be satisfied. Economics even reiterates this fact.
However, as long as we view people in this light, we are likely to “not care”. If we would be right, people should be viewed first as victims and then as witnesses.
In decision making, if you understand that people are victims of your decisions, it will help you to take the right steps.
Somehow, somewhere, someone will be affected by your decision. The question is, how best can you treat such people in a way that you will be justified? If you find a good justification in your heart, then its a good step!
If you have no justification, then consider the second point.
Now imagine, if those “victims” turn out to become witnesses, who would be justified?
In as much as these points are considered, then you will be able to make healthy decisions for yourself, and as such, the society at large.
Remember my haircut and how I got rid of it? I’ll tell you how I got to that decision. I thought about the victims- the students I was supposed to minister to , to be an example to and help in moulding their lives.
Also, if the school principal saw me with that hairstyle, I would not be allowed into the school, and the message I carry would not get to the students.
Then I thought about the witnesses.
If in the future, those students or the principals are asked why they refused me and my message, they would win, because no reasonable principal would allow a “tout” (only touts wear that hairstyle in that vicinity) come and teach the students anything – not morals, not religion, not even an academic class!
Until we meet next week for the final part, make healthy decisions!