Really, you do not have to live your life to please anyone because some people will like you- flaws and imperfections included, and others would not –no matter how hard you try. I have lived for over a quarter of a century and I have met with almost all kinds of people (take note of the ALMOST).
There are very bitter people who see no good in anything. They criticize harshly, smash sarcastic comments at you and reply you with smirks when you dish out an honest smile.
There are those who smile at you but always stab you in the back. These ones are not bold enough to confront you but can finish you at your absence (like really get your back to the ground totally).
The categories are inexhaustible (not a gist for today), but then there are those who love you truly and sincerely for obvious and non-obvious reasons.
Too many people have lived most of their lives trying to please an individual or a group of people; their parents, religious leaders, friends, bosses, role models and so on. Later in life they realized it was a futile effort (if it is not too late anyway). They succeeded in living fake lives, they are unfulfilled and they end up not being happy.
During my National Youth Service year, I became more aware of this fact and that is one of the most important lessons I learnt among others.
Bottom line: BE YOURSELF, BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF, TAKE RISKS, DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO AND BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE CONSEQUENCES AS WELL. ONLY YOU CAN LIVE YOUR LIFE.
For more than 12hours, I thought of how best to shorten my comments so as to avoid a whole piece as comment but yet still can’t get it. Nevertheless, let me say this;
Pleasing people is one suicidal mission many engage in and rarely take notice of. All I would say is, If in one’s heart, someone is in that track, I beg you, please STOP IT. I was a VICTIM. I can TESTIFY. You would soon lose your enthusiasm, which might ultimately bring you to xxxxx xxxxx.
Don’t justify why you need to please people. In the end, you would see, they don’t really care about you. Please GOD, and then please YOURSELF. The worst scenario could be that they are your parents, mentors or priest. I have been there.
I might follow up “My Encounter 6” with a readers feature.
Pharm Ope, Thumbs up!
For over 12hours, I thought of how best to shorten my comments so as to avoid a whole write-up while commenting, and now I think I'm ready…
Pleasing people is one example of Suicidal Mission people engage in and rarely take notice of. I can TESTIFY. I was once a VICTIM. I promise You, If you are on this track, you would soon loose your enthusiasm. This will ultimately bring you closer to early xxxxx. YOU ARE WARNED. STOP IT today. Please Yourself after GOD, no matter who they are. The worst it could be is that the person You are pleasing is once parent, mentor or priest. This were mine. I experienced it.
I promise to share my experience and how to fully overcome it soonest. Follow up here.
what a great piece Pharm Ope. Thumbs Up!